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Writings & Recordings


Learning to Feel
cross posted at The Wisdom Daily It was a Wednesday night, just a few days after the 2018 massacre at the Tree of Life synagogue in...
Apr 8

Celebrating Milestones: The Knot Hall of Fame Recognition
A Journey of Recognition In my career, I have been fortunate to receive various honors and awards. One of the most meaningful...
Feb 3

Ketu-What?! Reimagining Your Ketubah as a Communications Covenant
The strength of our relationships is measured not by how much we love each other when things are easy, but by how we communicate when...
Dec 13, 2024


Spiritual Scaffolding
cross posted at ejewishphilanthropy.com When I was a kid, cold shame would flood my shoulders on the rare occasion that I entered my...
Dec 13, 2024


Wow, Please and Thank You
In Jewish thought, Thanksgiving isn't an annual tradition, but a practice we are invited to step into three times a day. The Amidah is...
Nov 26, 2024


Why Get Married?
cross posted at The Wisdom Daily Obviously, dating sucks. In large part, that’s because we are quite explicitly being judged. From the...
Nov 21, 2024


Love Despite Difference: A Movie
All couples have differences. Some couples have “formal” differences - perhaps you have a different religious or ethnic background than...
Nov 11, 2024


Rosh Hashana 5785: Renewal in Challenging Times
Around this time of year, we sometimes talk about forgiveness as if we could just cast off the things we regret, like some sort of...
Sep 30, 2024


God's Hands
Rabbi Brent Chaim Spodek and Ruth Messinger reprinted from Who by Fire, Who by Water , Lawrence Hoffman, editor For most American Jews,...
Sep 24, 2024

How to Have a Hard Conversation
The public celebrations of Rosh Hashona and Yom Kippor are the culmination of work that we are called to do all during the Hebrew month...
Sep 24, 2024


Shabbat After the Law
cross posted from the Times of Israel I can’t remember the first time that I had a proper Shabbat dinner, the first time that I heard the...
Aug 30, 2024

Listening as a Spiritual Practice
In traditional Jewish thought, we are talkers before we are anything else. This sounds like a set-up for a dated ethnic joke, but in...
May 7, 2024

5% For Ever After - Investing in Your Marriage, as well as Your Wedding
Invest 5% for ever after - whatever your budget for the one day wedding, be sure to invest at least 5% in the decades long marriage.
Apr 29, 2024


Resources for Pesach 2024
At the practical level, the hallmark of the holiday is the Seder, in which Jews discuss the liberation and its meaning for today....
Apr 17, 2024


Criticism: Don't take it (or give it) personally
What I lack in rock climbing skill, I make up for with rock climbing enthusiasm. I love the physical and mental challenge of finding my...
Apr 2, 2024

How I learned to pray on a walk in the woods
Few teachings in the Jewish tradition have shaped me as much as the words of Rebbe Nachman's Tefilah 11, in which he writes, "Holy One of...
Dec 6, 2023


How to be a Good Jewish Lover: The Basics
Strong marriages aren’t frictionless; strong marriages have deliberate practices that allow for complicated, fallible people to be in...
May 30, 2023

Conversion Lessons in Agriculture and Compassion
cross posted to The Forward The Jewish community has been welcoming and celebrating converts to Judaism since at least the time of Ruth,...
May 25, 2023


Becoming a Man
cross posted to the Times of Israel When I was a teenager, I had two posters on my bedroom walls — one of Samantha Fox, the ubiquitous...
Dec 19, 2022


Masters of the House
cross posted to Beacon Hebrew Alliance My wife should have been born on a small street in Rexingen, a small town in Germany’s Black...
Nov 9, 2022
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